Power Struggles


I’ve been struggling with Kaeli, trying to get her to eat. Mealtimes have become me sitting there, coaxing her to take every. single. bite. and I just can’t do it anymore. Meals have become about control instead of nourishment. I’m trying to control her diet by making sure she eats her food, she’s trying to establish control by -not- eating her food, and we fight for hours every day.

So I’m trying not to. I’m trying to just… present her food, and let her eat it.

It sounds so simple, but all my research says that the best thing to do, is stop making it about power. Make it about conversation and community and togetherness, and if she eats it, she eats it. If she doesn’t, she’ll be hungrier for the next meal. Make sure that there’s something at every meal that each kid will eat, even if it’s just carrot sticks or dinner rolls. I try to include something healthy- fruits or veggies or yogurt or something at each meal that they’ll eat for sure.

I’m not sure how it’ll go, but we’ll find out. Lets try it.

Breakfast: Waffles and bacon. Josh ate both. Kaeli ate a waffle, Ayla ate a waffle. I think the girls had a small bit of bacon. Josh ate most of it.

Lunch: Parmesan pigs in a blanket- puff pastry around little smokeys and sprinkled with parmesan cheese, and carrot sticks and milk. Josh ate his pigs. Ayla ate carrots. Kaeli ate one pig and one carrot. Everyone had some milk.

Supper: Breaded chicken breast chunks, crinkle cut fries, and fresh carrots, radishes, cucumbers, and bell peppers. All kids ate everything, and lots of it. By dinner they were all hungry, having ate only a little at the other two meals. We did not pressure anyone to eat anything, or coax, or anything. We encouraged them to taste food, praised them for eating a variety of things, and otherwise ignored their food choices except to remind them to mind their table manners and offer solutions to flavor dilemmas (offering sauces to help when they said something was ‘spicy’ for instance.)

Day One: Appears to be a success. Kaeli ate a little bit of everything, Ayla tried several new foods. Josh ate an entire plate of food and veggies. The veggie platter was cleared by the end of the meal. 


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